Men! Oh, don't we women love to hate them. lol No, but seriously men have always been a huge issue in and outside of my family. Most of the men in my family are simply disappointing! Choosing to indulge themselves in drugs, alcohol, jail, or every other woman in America besides their wives.. instead of allowing God to be the head of their lives, establishing themselves in society, and disproving the statistics instead of falling into their evil trap.
-- I really don't want to come off as a "man basher" or anything like that, but it is extremely frustrating!!
I was at Cedar Point yesterday when I was reminded of what I DON'T want my husband to be. (My husband- whether it will eventually be my current boyfriend or not- is always in my prayers! I think about him all the time because I hope he is making choices that will lead to us having a prosperous..harmonious life in the near future..lol I know that may sound weird and I also know God has it all planned out, but its just something that I like to do :-) ). I rehearsed all the negative experiences, specifically that my mom,sister, and I have had with men in the past. I know, I know its not the most pleasant thing to be thinking about..especially while you're at CEDAR POINT!!
One thing I have learned to do when reminiscing on negative situations, such as this, is to assess the situation and how I can prevent it from happening to me. In this situation I can: REFUSE to deal with, let alone date/marry any men who choose to govern themselves in this way!!
THINGS THAT I REFUSE TO DEAL WITH..when it comes to men (not in order)
- A man that is not impressed with the Jesus Christ!! I absolutely have to have a God-fearing, bible-reading man who submits to God no matter what! I want him to know without a shadow of a doubt that God, and maybe even remind me that the God we serve is inexhaustible. I think this narrows the list down a lot because that include a man that: lies, cheats, drinks, smokes, is full of lust, homosexual in any way,prideful, is a thief, jealous,sneaky,angry conniving, etc.
- A man that is not affectionate!! I am one of those "lovey dovey" type girls who loves to be kissed, hugged, and caressed! lol It may have to do with the lack of that from men when I was a child, but either way I love it! And I can't see myself with a man who doesn't show me affection.
- A man that is rude and shrude!! My husband will be a gentleman.My man needs to take care of me. Thoughtfulness is a huge part of love. I obviously want my husband to be in love with me so he needs to be mindful of my needs!
- A man with no patience or easily angered!! Not havin' it.S
- A man that is controlling!! This is probably the most irritating of all. When a man always has to have their way!! I think this is mainly because I was controlled as a child, and my mom was controlled by her husband for so long its something that I can not tolerate in the least bit.
- A man that has NO motivation!!I can not stand laziness! I mean, we are all lazy sometimes but I mean excessive laziness where he has no aspirations to go to school or work or make something of himself. I want him to be intelligent so that we can bounce ideas off of each other and live in WISDOM!!
- A man that is not as selective as I am!! I don't mind a man with a history as long as its a testimony. I don't want a man who is attracted to every woman that he sees. I want him to have standards and goals. I want him to have this same list of things that He doesn't like in a woman so that when we meet He will appreciate me as much as I appreciate Him.
--That is not all, but those are the most important. I know that no one is perfect, but I think selection is the key. As a woman, I don't want to be perceived as "easy" or dating just any man..for the sake of dating him.
I am striving to use wisdom in every aspect of life..including my romantic life. I believe God and I trust His word.
Psalms 37:4 Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.
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Selection is indeed the key to lasting happiness. The last thing someone [especially a woman] can do is sell herself short on getting a good man because she feels as if she has to settle.
If I ever have daughter, I would want her to be selective so that she could what she wants and be happy. It would be easy for me to say that I would want my daughter to date and/or marry a man like me, but she would have to make that decision for herself and she would have to do it based on the example that I set. If I set a poor example, how could I possibly ask her to select a man like me...no way!
You definitely have a good list put together Kelle and I am sure there someone out there that is everything or close to what you are seeking.
:::Marcus LANGFORD:::
Marcus- thanks so much.I'm positive that God is going to put the right man in my life. And I haveno problem waiting. Thanks for your insight :-)
Is Cedar Point an amusement park? If it is, I went and loved it. I need to go back because it's been years since I was there.
You have a good list. I have pretty much the same things on my list.
And it is not crazy at all for you to pray for your husband. I do the same thing. Whoever he may be and whatever he may be going through to get to the point of us being together is important to me, so I have to pray on that.
Jewells-
Yes, Cedar Point is the best amusmant park in the world! And if you havent been in years then you are missing out on the best rides they have!!They build one every year. (You need to go back)
Lol. Yes, I know deep down nothing is wrong with praying for my husband but it is unusual to most women my age.
Wow! you want perfection, I think the older we get we tend to bend the rules
I hope you get all of these things and more Doll Face!! =)
@MoneyMonk.. I doubt it! I'd rather be alone than to settle. :-)
@Dana.. Thanks!! :-):-)
All very good things... we shouldnt deal with those types of things... I like your take too... I got flack a while back for writing a post about my perfect man...everything I wanted him to be...
but I think its also important to highlight what you dont want your man to be.
I read that psalms all the time =]
@Eb.. Yeah I decided to highlight what I didnt want to avoid confining my husband to a box and basically saying that if He didnt have these certain specific traits than he had no chance with me.. PLUS I dont even really know what I want. Im more sure about what I dont want. lol Its weird.
@Sunshyne.. Thanks! I added ya! Hope to chat with ya soon
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